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The Thursday Women+ Thread Stands Tall

Some guidelines to help this space be a positive experience for everyone:

As always with the Avocado, don’t feel compelled to share beyond your comfort level. 

Anyone who identifies as female, or who was socialized female/AFAB/otherwise has firsthand experience with the issues being discussed, is welcome to post. If you identify as cis-male, we ask that you please set your participation to “lurk” mode, unless otherwise explicitly invited to participate further (i.e. if we did an AMA kind of thread). I’m sure there’s plenty to be gleaned just by reading! (New Guideline, please take note) This includes upvotes, we ask cis-men to keep their upvotes to commenters who voluntarily add “+up” to their comments and only those comments.

Please do your best to be mindful of others’ experiences when commenting or posing questions for the group. The female identity is Legion and contains multitudes, and not everyone who has experience with being treated as female by society identifies as female. Furthermore, racial and ethnic identities, sexual orientation, and many other factors can color how one experiences their gender identity on a day-to-day basis.

Just to reiterate, in case someone would like to post but doesn’t feel enticed by the proposed subject matter:

The prompts are entirely optional: any contribution/rant/thought experiment by a woman+ is always welcome.

Prompt: Let’s talk preferences and our right to have them. What is it that we are attracted to in a partner/friend with benefits/paramour/one-night-stand? Have we as women+ experienced being shamed for our likes and dislikes, as in “asking too much”, “aiming too high”, “having impossible standards”, “making it hard for the average guy”? Does this line of argument only ever come up in relation to men, for… reasons? Or have those among us who are (also) into genders that are not cis-men, been told those things as well?

Have at it, luvs.