Some guidelines to help this space be a positive experience for everyone:
As always with the Avocado, don’t feel compelled to share beyond your comfort level.
Anyone who identifies as female, or who was socialized female/AFAB/otherwise has firsthand experience with the issues being discussed, is welcome to post. If you identify as cis-male, we ask that you please set your participation to “lurk” mode, unless otherwise explicitly invited to participate further (i.e. if we did an AMA kind of thread). I’m sure there’s plenty to be gleaned just by reading! (New Guideline, please take note) This includes upvotes, we ask cis-men to keep their upvotes to commenters who voluntarily add “+up” to their comments and only those comments.
Please do your best to be mindful of others’ experiences when commenting or posing questions for the group. The female identity is Legion and contains multitudes, and not everyone who has experience with being treated as female by society identifies as female. Furthermore, racial and ethnic identities, sexual orientation, and many other factors can color how one experiences their gender identity on a day-to-day basis.
Just to reiterate, in case someone would like to post but doesn’t feel enticed by the proposed subject matter:
The prompts are entirely optional: any contribution/rant/thought experiment by a woman+ is always welcome.
Prompt: One keeps coming across the trope of “Women don’t dress for men, they dress for other women.” in literature. Is…. is this really a thing? (*narrator’s voice* It’s not a thing.) Whom do you dress (up) for, fellow Women+? Strictly yourself? Your work? The world at large? A potential love interest’s gaze? Do you notice any differences in the choices you make, between “single” and “coupled up” dressing?