Hello! Welcome to COTL, a discussion place for BIPOC. Posted the first 3 Wednesdays of the month
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I hope everyone who celebrates had a Happy Easter holiday.
I attended a cousin’s wedding the week before & unfortunately that led to the typical “when are you getting married” question.
When I answered “I don’t know” I was met with the comment from an aunty: “which culture are you: this one or that one?” I suppose I was correct in responding “I don’t know,” because sometimes I literally don’t. I’m too Asian to be white. Too white to be Asian (I got called “so white” by a “friend” for mispronouncing something). Just can’t win with people.
Truth be told, I kind of dislike how insular my culture is: I know very few in the family/friends who’ve married outside of it (so much for multiculturalism 🤷🏾♀️) and I can count on one hand how many are queer (🤦🏾♀️).
Anyways, not sure what the prompt is, but I guess what’s the most difficult or challenging thing you’ve heard recently in terms of race or culture?
This prompt maybe a bit too difficult, so by all means feel free to go off prompt & talk about anything else you feel like.