The Women+ Thread Doesn’t Owe Men Anything

Some guidelines to help this space be a positive experience for everyone:

 As always with the Avocado, don’t feel compelled to share beyond your comfort level. 

Anyone who identifies as female, or who was socialized female/AFAB/otherwise has firsthand experience with the issues being discussed, is welcome to post. If you identify as cis-male, we ask that you please set your participation to “lurk” mode, unless otherwise explicitly invited to participate further (i.e. if we did an AMA kind of thread). I’m sure there’s plenty to be gleaned just by reading! (New Guideline, please take note) This includes upvotes, we ask cis-men to keep their upvotes to commenters who voluntarily add “+up” to their comments and only those comments.

 Please do your best to be mindful of others’ experiences when commenting or posing questions for the group. The female identity is Legion and contains multitudes, and not everyone who has experience with being treated as female by society identifies as female. Furthermore, racial and ethnic identities, sexual orientation, and many other factors can color how one experiences their gender identity on a day-to-day basis.

Today’s suggested topic: Good news

I’ve been seeing a lot of people lately who have caused harm or been called out for shitty things they’ve said using the classic tactic of forcing the people they’ve wronged to “educate” or “fix” them instead of doing an iota of the work they need to do themselves. How do you deal with these demands? Where is the line to cut people off who are a drain on your time and energy?

And as always, topics not related to the suggested topic are always okay to discuss here.